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Work life can be challenging.  Wouldn’t it be nice if we all had fun and enjoyed working together?  Just like a bunch of kids playing happily together in a sandbox.    Trouble is, not all kids play nicely.  Sometimes one of them will trample the sandcastle that the other kids have laboured to build.

It happens in organizations too.  Often.   Especially at meetings.  You’re pumped with a great idea but someone doesn’t listen to you or doesn’t think much of your idea.  Instead they begin a critique even before you’re completed your pitch.  And, they interrupt with a “yeah but” that makes you feel so deflated that you feel like punching them in the face!  Clearly that’s not a good response, satisfying that it might be.  It’s going to get you fired and worse still, have you arrested.

So, what are you going to do?  Don’t show anger.  Remain calm.  Explain your idea again, perhaps taking a different angle.   Give more facts than opinions (if you have them).Then ask others who may be more supportive for their feedback.  By demonstrating that you have significant majority support you will isolate the naysayer who might back off.    If your idea is controversial, consider seeking support in advance of a decision-making meeting to ensure that you’ll generate a number of positive comments.  And, if your idea is accepted, avoid the temptation to gloat.  It will come back to haunt you!

A final thought…..One of my life’s philosophies is not to try and change people.  Accept them for who they are and try to focus on the positive aspects of their talents, especially those that complement yours.  But, if that becomes unbearable learn to work around them.

 Or, find another sandbox to play in.